If I have been "the one" on more than one occasion, doesn't that make me another number at this point?
If most men want to make me their wife, does that make me a pseudo-polyandrist (female polygamist)?
Perhaps it's my stretch marks secretly emitting childbearing energy into my aura that only men sense causing them to want to impregnate me.
And finally, if you believe that I am the one for you, but I don't believe you are the one for me, that technically means 1 + -1 = 0, and you have NOTHING!"
There's no way any of this is possible, which leads me to believe that this whole concept of "the one" is as big a myth as monogamy itself.
Allow me to digress. Contrary to what we are taught to believe, it is not human nature to want to be with one person; that's an act we practice because society says its right. There is no undiscovered formula to the reason why the divorce rate is so high or why Cheaters is such a popular television show. Its very simple, we are greedy and our natural instinct leads us to pursue multiple partners.
While we're on the subject, being with multiple partners is not impressive; it's actually effortless because it coincides with the laws of nature. Convincing a woman you have never met to sleep with you is easy; but try convincing a woman to make love to you when she knows you consistently pee on the toilet seat, your morning breath has the ability to reshape eyebrows, and you have a malignant mole growing three quarters of the way between your navel and your left nipple.
So again I ask, if it's our human nature to be with more than one person, where the heck did this obnoxious concept of "the one" come from and why do so many men assign me the title of such? It can only be one of three things:
There's no way any of this is possible, which leads me to believe that this whole concept of "the one" is as big a myth as monogamy itself.
Allow me to digress. Contrary to what we are taught to believe, it is not human nature to want to be with one person; that's an act we practice because society says its right. There is no undiscovered formula to the reason why the divorce rate is so high or why Cheaters is such a popular television show. Its very simple, we are greedy and our natural instinct leads us to pursue multiple partners.
While we're on the subject, being with multiple partners is not impressive; it's actually effortless because it coincides with the laws of nature. Convincing a woman you have never met to sleep with you is easy; but try convincing a woman to make love to you when she knows you consistently pee on the toilet seat, your morning breath has the ability to reshape eyebrows, and you have a malignant mole growing three quarters of the way between your navel and your left nipple.
So again I ask, if it's our human nature to be with more than one person, where the heck did this obnoxious concept of "the one" come from and why do so many men assign me the title of such? It can only be one of three things:
• Men have implicit qualifications for being “the one” that I have
unwillingly embodied
• There is a shortage of women who are smart, witty, understanding, adventurous
• There is a shortage of women who are smart, witty, understanding, adventurous
and challenging – which is not to be confused with combative
Or
• There is no such thing as “the one”I'll let you decide
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I agree with most of your points, you definitely make a sound argument as to why it’s not surprising that there are more divorced than married. I can say that in regards to you specifically being the one, you kinda answered your own question. As someone that was privileged to have 5 or more minutes with you, I can say that all of those qualities you mentioned challenging, beautiful, witty, funny, etc. are very true and also act as great fuel to drive thoughts of lasting love and monogamy. No matter how much the male eye may wander the possibility of finding a perfect being or ‘One’ is I think a very real one. At the end of the day unfortunately people lie, people cheat, and people get hurt…you keep trying till something or someone works then you call it love. Maybe monogamy is what happens when you’re done trying. lol
you know, a lot of men who use that line are just sayin it cuz they think it's what we want to hear. I say eff that, I want to know who you are!
These menbank on the fact that women will put pressure on becoming their wifey or girlfriend
and put all our energy into being "in a relationship" and changin that relationship status on our facebook page. but here's the thing
I broke up with my man 6 months ago. i started dating again 3 months ago and I had to stop and really be honest with myself. I asked myself that hard question: do I want a relationship right now? and I realized, no, I don't.
Now eventually yes, I do want a committed love relationship with a great partner (i don't like the term boyfriend anymore really)
who i can grow and explore life with. But I and many other women will NEVER get there by puttin so much energy into making myself their girlfriend
At this point,the thing to do is to get to know a man as a person, as a human, as your friend. And...yes the attraction will be there. Roll with it but HAVE FUN!
Have fun getting to know who this person is. Laugh with them let them make you mad a lil bit...make up with them :-)
Go bowling and shit, drink with them, find out what their fave drink is etc.
The title will follow if it is meant to be as long as we make the priority getting to know them, learning what works for them and for us, setting boundaries and letting go of a few shallow 'requirements'...the love and the "title" will follow! :-)
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